her eyes were the sickly green of the sky before a tornado, and to his horror he discovered she could throw cows around just as easily

to his horror? weak shit. outta my way gayboy im boutta get it

all of our trobles seem so small from up here

what a beautiful day to not be in high school

i think heartstopper is very good for what it is - a lighthearted series aimed at young teens. it starts to fall flat on every level when you try and analyze it as anything else. "why is this" "why did they that" bc its a coming-of-age series for lgbt 12-15 year olds. thats why.

like i generally agree w the argument that lgbt stories are being sanitized and desexualized in order to be presented in the mainstream but i also think that maybe in this case its bc its a show for little babies. and no one wouldve batted an eye and made those arguments if this was another cishet story

the signs they have in hell in good omens r so silly

was talking to my gf about my fear of dying young for being trans and my mom putting my deadname on my gravestone, and she said "i hope that never happens, but if it does, i will carve your name into your grave myself if i have to." and i think theres something extremely raw about that sentiment and trans community in general. you can kill only our bodies, but you cant kill transsexuality

APPOINT SOMEONE ELSE AS YOUR NEXT OF KIN

If you are over 18 and do not want your parents to have control over your body after you die or if you go into a coma or something, take that power away from them. They are your automatic next of kin unless you get married which is why they have control over those things. But getting married isn’t the only way to change that, an advanced directive can do the same. This video has more information

In general it is a good idea for *everybody* to have a death plan, but ESPECIALLY trans people, whose rights are continuously violated and ignored even after death. Do it now, give yourself that peace of mind that if something terrible happens to you tomorrow, your loved ones and the people you trust with your identity, will know what to do and protect your identity against those who think they know you better.

[Video summary: The video is from youtube's Ask A Mortician (Caitlin Doughty). As the video is 11 minutes long, a full transcript would be difficult to write up; however, these are the main points discussed.

• Later this year, the Supreme Court is set to rule on the case of the 2013 firing of Aimee Stephens, a Detroit-area funeral home director who was let go from her job 2 weeks after coming out to her bosses as trans.
• Jennifer Gabel, a trans woman, tragically died young at the age of 32. Her friends were shocked to arrive at her funeral to find that her estranged father had arranged to have her hair cut short and have her put in a man's suit. In the aftermath, the funeral director who had carried this out told the media he had been legally bound to carry out the wishes of the next-of-kin.
• Ask A Mortician declares that this is only half-true. A funeral home is a private business and is allowed to refuse to do anything to the body that seems extreme, as in this case.
• There are options available to people who want to avoid this sort of fate: creating a death plan that would protect you, your wishes, and your identity. Here are the steps as Ask A Mortician lays them out:

1. Know what you want. This takes going through a process of asking yourself questions about what your opinions are on dying, death, and funerals.
2. Know who you want. Who do you want to be in charge of making these decisions after your death?
3. Ask the person, and explain what you want. Speak from both logic and emotion.
4. Get it in writing. This is the most important step. You'll need an advance directive, although other terms are sometimes used: living will, medical power of attorney, healthcare proxy, or funeral agent. You need both the document and the person: the document for laying out your wishes legally, and the person to ensure your wishes are carried out. The paperwork is different in each locale.
5. Share the documents. The following people should each have a copy: you, your medical proxy, your doctor or other trusted medical professional, and a copy should also be placed in your hospital chart, should you end up there. The original should be kept in a safe place that everyone knows.
6. A possible next step would be to place a card in your wallet that states who your healthcare agent will be.

End video summary.]

• Ask A Mortician partnered with Cake for the video in order to give video watchers a resource to turn to for this important process. It is a free website.
• The Order of the Good Death resource page is also linked in the description of the video.

I've been having a lot of feelings about the downfall of quality lately.

I ordered a pair of Dickies pants because pants are hard and workwear is usually reliable. When they arrived they were the scratchiest, most papery material--I can't actually call it fabric in good faith--and fit a full three sizes too small. A week later I found the same pair in a thrift store, dated 2017. These are actual pants. They fit, they're not made of asbestos. They're only separated by time.

There's no wood used in interior design unless it's a custom build. I have a set of wealthy relatives who live in a condo. The downpayment for it was likely more money than I will see in my lifetime. The floors and the cabinets are all still laminate. I know I will never see real wood in a building constructed after 2000. Every "apartment hack" I see online has this very conspicuous, flat appearance because of all the paint and contact paper required to make these builds look personal in any way. The only natural materials are in the furnishings.

I've been harping on this for years, but everything is shit, nothing is designed to work, and "growth" and "profit" are just euphemisms for cutting corners until things are unworkable.

everything is more expensive, and everything is getting shittier.